When it comes to the relationship with your wife or girlfriend, there are bound to be ups and downs. Of course, some downs are worse than others. The lowest of the low? Suspecting your partner of cheating on you.
Imagining that break of trust—but not really knowing for sure—can drive you crazy. And what if you’re wrong? Fortunately, there are a few subtle ways to get evidence about if your wife or girlfriend has been unfaithful before talking to her about it directly:
Look into That Unknown Phone Number
You should not just go through your partner’s phone without her permission. But if you see an unknown phone number coming up on the screen multiple times, there’s nothing stopping you from noting that number and looking it up to see who the person behind it might be.
With an online reverse phone lookup, you simply search the full phone number, and the database will pull up all available public records information associated with it. This could include the phone owner’s name, where they’re located, and other contact information. Knowing who’s behind all the calls or texts can go a long way toward proving your suspicions.
Monitor Her Social Media
Similar to the phone, it is illegal to access your wife or girlfriend’s social media accounts without her knowledge; that would be considered an invasion of privacy. But, even if she tries to hide things, you can
still find out a lot about what she’s been up to, based on the public posts, comments, and photos you may find on Facebook, Twitter and other social platforms.
Is she tagged in pictures with a person you don’t know? Was she out somewhere she said she never goes? What about any odd comments that she or someone else has been leaving?
Make Her Friends Your Friends
If your wife or girlfriend has been cheating on you, she has probably told at least one of her friends or relatives. Just coming out and asking them about it yourself won’t work, of course—it will just put them on the defensive, and they could tell your woman what you’ve been up to. Instead, what you really want to do first is develop relationships with her friends.
It won’t necessarily be easy to get that person to admit anything to you, and it will likely take some time to build their trust. But many people feel guilty knowing these kinds of things, especially if they start to feel close to you as well. Before you know it, they’ll spill the info you need to know. (Or maybe not…after all, it might not be true!)
Study Her Behavior
The thing is, you probably feel suspicious that she’s cheating on you because she has started to behave differently around you. That in itself is not concrete evidence of cheating, but certain behaviors can point to it more than others. Keep an eye on how’s she’s acting to see if that points to cheating.
Once you think you have the proof you need, then you can feel more confident confronting her with it. If the answer is good news, that’s great. But if it’s not, at least you have the information you need to decide how you want to move on with your life.